Wednesday, 16 September 2015

How Much Do You Value Reliable Friends?

What makes a good friend? Have you ever wondered what kind of a friend you are? Do you have high expectations of people in your life or do you rely mainly on family for help and support? I saw a friend unexpectedly earlier and the meeting has had me thinking about our relationship and what it means to me.

Tuesday, 15 September 2015

Have You Ever Stared Death In The Face?

Have you ever wondered what would happen if you weren't here? How would your family manage without you? What would their daily routine be then? Is it something you would rather not think about? Is it too painful to consider? Not being able to watch your children grow up. 

Sunday, 13 September 2015

Summer Revelations

I think this year has to have been one of the longest, toughest summer holidays yet. My Mum isn't well, which has been an emotional roller coaster. My Captain of Chaos has been living up to his name beautifully which has made everything ten times more stressful. Having spent the best part of a week with relatives in Scotland, I have had a chance to reflect on the last 6 weeks. These are my discoveries.

* A lot of the problems with Chaos, I think, are due to a lack of one to one time. He has been better behaved at nursery or on days out. I am trying to accept that I may not be able to fulfil his needs, given that I have the demands of three other children to concider. I need to think of a way to give him more stimulation without it having to be one to one. I still feel he has other issues that need addressing as well.

* As a Mum, I feel a different kind of protectiveness towards my girl than the three boys. I don't know if that is a common thing. For example, I never spared a thought about who was around when I did the boys nappies but I take my girl somewhere private or away from non-family. I am careful about what pics I put on social media too.

* I can make hedgehogs from books! I may even do a post about it at a later date. I am now making two babies to go with the larger one. Paper folding is definitely something I'm going to look into further. I love it and I'm hooked!

* I bought a wood burning tool. I have made two plaques and both well were well received. I really enjoy making them too so more projects to follow I think.

* Self care is one of the most important practices you can do for your family. I have realised, unless I am well balanced I can not manage my children or parent effectively. I am quite tired most of the time which means I don't have the same patience I would have on top form. This will be an on going challenge that will fluctuate for some time as I find it hard to maintain.

* The less time we spend in the house, the tidier my house is! This may be obvious and I'm sure I knew this gem from years ago!

* I have a tendency to over stretch myself. I am so preoccupied with making sure everyone is ok, I forget to look after myself!

* Sleep is vital!

Saturday, 15 August 2015

The Mindless Stigma Of A Naughty Child

We have all done it at some point. A screaming child in a supermarket throwing an almighty tantrum. An embarrassed mother at her wits end wishing the ground would open up and swallow her. Tutting and whispering old folk commenting that "you wouldn't see that in my day..." 
I used to wonder why people took kids shopping if it was such a nightmare for everyone. Now I'm a Mum, I understand. I have also been on the receiving end of the looks and comments. To be honest, I don't enjoy either situation. Watching another parent struggle or being the one struggling. But then, I don't think anyone does.

Thursday, 13 August 2015

Week Three. Halfway Already!!

Week three didn't start off so great here. I think we were all shattered from the camping trip and lots of walking. I hadn't made any plans at all for this week so I (stupidly) thought I'd wing it. Not a good idea. At. All. 

Thursday, 6 August 2015

What We Got Up To In Week Two

So, how are we all coping with the holidays? We are halfway through week three now. I am honestly surprised at how well I'm managing. Don't get me wrong, I've had days that have made me want to bang my head on the wall repeatedly. On the whole though, so far so good. 

Tuesday, 28 July 2015

Excited About Our First Family Camping Expedition

In spite of yesterday (which you can read about here), we are off on a camping trip with the childrens centre today. Although I am a little bit anxious, I know we will have a great time and the boys will love it! I will also have support with them which I really need right now. 

Monday, 27 July 2015

Breaking Point, Chaos and Other Behavioural Problems

I can honestly say I didn't think I would be writing another post like this again. I really don't know how it happened. Im lying on my bed next to my sleeping princess and fidgety Squish. My eyes feel sore and swollen from crying. My head is gently thumping whilst feeling squeezed at the temples. I feel utterly shattered. The kind of shattered and dazed you feel after being awake for several days but have no idea which days they were.